As I write this sipping Prosecco and taking a moment to myself I think how my sweet Theo Shane is three months old. And with the last three months being much of a whirlwind I caught myself reflecting on it. In no way do I want to come off as all knowing, or like I'm the first person to ever have a baby. However, I have had the honor of knowing some pretty amazing moms and soon-to-be moms. This post is for you.
When I was pregnant, I heard a lot of things. Some of those things being " Your life is going to change." , "Soon there won't be any date nights!", "Sleep now because you'll never sleep again.". And while sure your life absolutely changes but in the most amazing way. The way people said it to me was like a negative change like you'll lose your freedom. I know I sure do have much to learn as a new Mom but I'm going to pass down what I have learned in this last three months.
While pregnant I was doing a shoot for a friend and fellow Mom. We were talking about pregnancy and momming when she said something really eye opening that I won't soon forget. "Your life doesn't have to change, you just incorporate your little one into it." It was so simple but it really grabbed me. She was right. I feel like as an expecting Mom so many people try to scare you. Why? I'm not sure. But being three months in, she was in fact, very right. MK and I pretty much lead the same life with a little one added in enriching our lives beyond words.
You can still be you. While Mom Jeans are very in right now (praise Jesus!) that doesn't mean you have to give up your pre mom style. I have an edgy glam style and being a mom or not, it's staying that way. Speaking of clothes, that brings me to the post baby bod. I thought I was ready for it, really I did. But as Rachel Green would say "Isn't that just kick-you-in-the-crotch, spit-on-your-neck-fantastic?". Where my "Friends" fans at? Here's the thing and this thing is taking a while to get used to. GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK! You brought a human here. A human. No matter how that little creature got here, whether you had a hard or an easy (thank you Theo) delivery, you grew them, and got them here. You are amazing. So when you are horrified much like I was, that your body didn't immediately snap back. Remember that.
Going back again to when I was pregnant, I told my best friend that if something ever happened to me to please delete my google search history. I googled everything! "What happens when..." What if..." "Is it possible that..." If you're pregnant or a new mom, stop second guessing yourself on the little things. When something feels right or wrong it probably is. Mom instinct is real.
So I wanted to say thank you to everyone who helped me along the way, given me advice (solicited or not and a special thank you to my Sister Sarah (mom of four!) for her advice, wisdom, and patience.) because it has truly helped me develop as a Mom. And I must say keep those baby photos and bump updates coming on Facebook and Insta. I sure do feel honored to be in such great company. Thanks for stopping by Fast Fashionista today!